daily bread

I am a bit of a mess, emotionally, spiritually.You who know my story understand why induction in this hospital fills me with such terror and will understand how desperately disappointed I am at losing my home birth tomorrow. These past few days have gone by in a blur of tears and frustration and more than a little rage toward the heavenlies. There are no easy answers to the questions I have or the pain and fear I feel right now and comfort is very hard to find never mind accept. My dear hubby, who has and is being tested beyond endurance by his inconsolable wife found this song by Rich Mullins and somehow it begins to help a little.

You who live in heaven
Hear the prayers of those of us who live on earth
Who are afraid of being left by those we love
And who get hardened by the hurt
Do you remember when You lived down here where we all scrape
To find the faith to ask for daily bread
Did You forget about us after You had flown away
Well I memorized every word You said
Still I’m so scared, I’m holding my breath
While You’re up there just playing hard to get

You who live in radiance
Hear the prayers of those of us who live in skin
We have a love that’s not as patient as Yours was
Still we do love now and then
Did You ever know loneliness
Did You ever know need
Do You remember just how long a night can get?
When You were barely holding on
And Your friends fall asleep
And don’t see the blood that’s running in Your sweat

Will those who mourn be left uncomforted
While You’re up there just playing hard to get?

And I know you bore our sorrows
And I know you feel our pain
And I know it would not hurt any less
Even if it could be explained
And I know that I am only lashing out
At the One who loves me most
And after I figured this, somehow
All I really need to know
Is if You who live in eternity
Hear the prayers of those of us who live in time
We can’t see what’s ahead
And we can not get free of what we’ve left behind
I’m reeling from these voices that keep screaming in my ears
All the words of shame and doubt, blame and regret
I can’t see how You’re leading me unless You’ve led me here
Where I’m lost enough to let myself be led

And so You’ve been here all along I guess
It’s just Your ways and You are just plain hard to get

So for the good news: 10.2 and homebirth is a go.

But we don’t want to give you that! It’s double or nothing in the Overdue Sweepstakes. You’ve got your homebirth but for a limited time only (did we mention that this offer runs out on Wednesday?), your baby is now posterior (crap position for labour) and your cervix is no more ready than the man in the moon?

Excellent. Ya think God is trying to address a few control issues?

Faith and trust start to feel bloody hard when you are staring down the barrel of induction. I’m sure others find comfort at times like this in the words of theologians, poets or perhaps even the bible. My current source of comfort is a little less highbrow – it’s Dory the blue fish from Finding Nemo. She can’t remember more than 7 seconds of what happens to her, doesn’t have the capacity to anticpate the problems that lie ahead and is accompanied by Marlin, the worlds most anxious clown fish.  So what’s her motto? ‘Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming’. That’s pretty much what I aspire to right now, to not have to be 5 steps ahead with solutions for every scenario or caught in a endless loop of  what ifs but  to keep in the present dealing with the now and just keep going.

It’s going to take a lot of prayer.

Somehow these past couple of weeks Coleraine, in spite of it’s inauspicious name has become waterproof. Despite forecasts for rain and rain in neighbouring towns it never seems to reach us. We’ve had glorious days of sunshine and what with all the changes to the garden this has meant spending most of my days on a sun lounger issuing commands to any small child or husband who will listen. I’m realising being very pregnant for the last time (really) should have it’s advantages and you gotta make it work for you. I’ve got over the 5-month-long nesting madness which has transformed our wee house and garden and now I just want to rest and wait and savour the calm bfore the storm. And at this stage a wee glass of wine in the sunshine can’t hurt, eh?

9.8. Damn close.

Funny now to be hoping baby is late so that they can squeeze another blood test in. Feeling surprisingly calm and chilled about the whole thing (I imagine that’s because half the planet have been praying this week). I can feel myself daring to trust Abba’s timing and his care for me. It’s good to exercise those faith muscles, they’d been getting a bit flabby and I just have a real sense of his gentleness toward me.

Got a wee bit of a shock last night when things started kciking off and I had 2 hours of cramping and contraction-y pains. You really do forget between births what it is like. I just wasn’t ready and wasn’t that keen on the midwife on-call for me so obedient child that she is she burrowed back in and went quiet. Phew. That’s the bad thing about having a list of all the midwives and their on-call times, you want to pick and choose when you go into labour.

So at the mo I’m downgraded from Home birth to Domino care. It’s like a halfway house where you call the midwife when you are in labour and she comes out to your house and you can stay there until you are quite close to delivering then it’s into hospital to deliver. Secretly I’m hoping not to call the midwife too early and maybe find that we may not have enough time to get round there. Is that very naughty?

My bet is wed/thursday this week for the birth. We shall see….

My midwife has just come and taken my blood so we can see if it has gone up. Results in this avo and I’m not sure which of us is more nervous – she knows how much I want a homebirth and will nearly be as disappointed as me if it isn’t above 10. I’m feeling peaceful about it, hands open for now. It’ll not be for want of trying – it’s been red meat every night this week plus iron tablets plus 2 different natural iron supplements plus acupuncture plus my entire church praying for 10.0. So if it isn’t 10, there’s probably a bloody good reason. The upside of all this iron is that I have more energy and less grumpiness.

Come wait with me a while and keep your fingers and toes crossed…….

Maybe it’s the vast quantities of iron, maybe the arrival of summer to the north coast, but things are looking up. Well, inside my head they are anyway and thats what counts. No baby, no updates on the blood count but in the middle of the watching and waiting a little more peace has descended. I’m thankful for the kick-ass sermon Jayber gave on Sunday about Penetecost that was inspiring and moving and well, just great (I am allowed to be biased), for the fun afternoon spent wtaching the boys discover how blood-curdlingly cold paddling on The Strand is and for the simple pleasure of my Mum’s gluten/dairy/sugar free apple crumble.